Anger Management for Kids

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When You Play… Rough!

Kids....,

Is it ok to play rough with your friends? (Applies especially to boys)
Well, YES, it is… Only IF you learn HOW to play nicely.
Take a look at the list of “Unwritten Rules” and think about it the next time you decide to play rough with your friend…

Unwritten Rules of Rough Play

1. Engage only parties who “agree”.
2. Be careful with weaker/smaller/female opponents.
3. Avoid dangerous situations
4. Expect that you might get hurt (physical/verbal) & don’t get too mad if you do get hurt.
5. Be aware of when to stop! à Don’t wait for someone to get hurt to stop. Just have a little fun)
6. Hold back your complete strength/words that might potentially hurt.
7. Don’t offend/scare/others around you.
8. Be responsible if things go wrong.

Episode 4

Promoting Learning Through Fun!

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Learning Life!

Miracle in Front of Your Eyes!

Have you ever watched a child grow?

Today, I observed the way my 3rd graders (last year) already seem to be more mature 4th graders (this year).
Surely summer wasn't all THAT long!???!?!!

In child psychology, we learn about the changes that a child goes through - physical and otherwise, and it is plain to see that children are indeed fast learners. From not knowing what language or communication is even for, to having a vocabulary that grows and expands in a way that would put an adult to shame!

The thing is, we are often so dulled by the "normal" aspects of everyday life that we fail to recognize the daily miracles happening right before our eyes.


So next time you feel frustrated with your students/children because it seems that they just never seem to learn...
Remember:
- they are learning! They are learning more than you know!
They learn vicariously through observation, from daily repetitious behaviours, from the trial-and-errors of life's experiences... boy oh boy, do they LEARN!

So... just take a breath now.
Be patient with them.
Because change, in anyone, takes time.

Infectious Optimism!

A happy classroom is a learning classroom.

Today I held the first meetings with the upper and lower elementary student leaders.
They have been given a special mission: to infect the school with happiness through their own optimism.

Here's a clip that demonstrates some great points on optimism (watch just from 2:50 onwards):




After the clip, we discussed what optimism is, and HOW to infect others with positive energy. In particular, how do you infect a "negative" person with optimism?
The video clip holds the key (last part) - that even the toughest/hardest person has a soft inner core.
Teaching the kids this important point, I saw a glimmer of hope and excitement in their eyes.
It's interesting to see how quickly they caught on to the idea that helping make other people happy might be fun and benefit them!

Many children enter school with an effervescent enthusiasm for learning, and a natural optimism towards life. However, somewhere along the way, that glimmer gets squashed.


I think that as educators, it is important for us to ask ourselves this question ever so often:
How do we nurture and keep those flames of enthusiasm burning?

Take Them OUT!

Stuck in routines?
Classroom feeling claustrophobic?
Kids bored?
YOU are bored??


Well, take your kids out! :)

A Visit From The Ancients...

Grade 3B gives Grade 3A an impromptu fashion show...

Give Them a Taste!

Today I decided to let some of my kids take turns being the teacher.

I don't just mean to let them teach a class/chapter, I mean to let them take responsibility for classroom procedures such as getting their classmates to pack up, line up, and go home!

Yes, many times, teachers get bogged down by simple classroom procedures.
What seems like it should take a minute to accomplish, in the awful reality of the true-to-life classroom can take up to 15 minutes longer than expected. (Thus diminishing precious teaching time!)
This is REALLY something unis/colleges should include when they teach teachers to teach! -->READ: Bridging the gap between pedagogy and theory.

Instead of just designating a job to a student, I went a step further and "stepped down" from my own position of "power" by saying that this student was now the acting teacher and was in charge.

One would expect that the class would take a turn for the chaotic... after all, classroom management is not something we teach kids!

However, to my surprise (perhaps it is the groundwork of empathy I've been working hard on instilling in them), the students were pretty cooperative with their Student-Teacher!
Maybe having a Student-Teacher seemed like some-sort of game to them too... hence the element of "fun" was added to a normal everyday situation.

And we all know that having fun is a great motivator for anyone!

Look Forward... But Not Too Far Ahead!

After an eventful weekend, Monday morning loomed bright and early.
As I was exiting the train station and walking the familiar route to school, blisters on my feet bothered me, the heat of the day was already palpable, and my mind was still hazy from sleep.

I can't wait for work to be finished today!


Wait....
What was that?

Had I just been looking forward to the end of the day when my workday had not yet even begun?

Immediately I corrected my line of thinking.

Let's get excited about what I'll be doing in school today.
Let's see.... I'm going to see the students I love, I'm excited to teach them about verb tenses (YES!!), we appoint a new student of the week....

Soon, I realized that I felt more positive about my day.



It's only natural (as human beings who get bored and tired) to want the workday to be over.
But if you want to have good workday in the first place, LIVE IN THE MOMENT.
Concentrate on finding the positive things that motivate you and will help you enjoy the day.
Before you know it, the day will be over, and you would have had a great day.

Have a great week everyone! :)

Keeping Humble

I learn a lot... a LOT from my kids.

This week, I've learned that humour cures almost any situation.
I'm also learning to give them more credit - to look beyond the outward behaviour and see the inner needs.

Kids try hard.
Yes, they are ego-centric and selfish-absorbed little creatures... but at the same time, they crave our love, attention and approval.
This need for approval drives their behaviour so strongly.
Yet in every child, the way they show this need is different.
Some show it in more endearing ways than others.

But at the end of the day, they all want the same thing:
To be loved.
OK, maybe not just to be loved... but also to be loved in spite of who they are - how they look, how they speak, what they wear, mistakes they make, words they say.



By watching them, I feel greatly humble and sometimes even chastised.

It is indeed a privilege to deal with children everyday.

Mental Preparation....

Teachers have a lot to of preparation to do on a regular basis.
Much of our time is spent researching, planning, organizing, gathering materials, making things, and then doing it all again week in and week out.

And THEN we have to actually execute the lesson.
Haahhahahaha...


Add crazy shouting kids who have a 2 minute memory span for any instructions given, and dealing with various other crazy things that pop up, trying to cover content in the expected time, attending meetings, dealing with parents,... not forgetting all the "debriefing" and reflection we are supposed to do AFTER a lesson, yes, teachers can be pretty mentally exhausted by Fridays.




So I generally try to make sure I'm READY for the week - Sunday is usually my most laid back day, and despite feeling generally depressed that the gorgeous weekend has just passed, I try to look forward to the new work-week ahead.

How?

I think about my kids - not the stuff that gets me antsy and frustrated, but rather then things that make me happy.
Like how one of my kids just wrote in his journal on Friday that he has been very concerned about me when I missed school cuz I was sick. Then he said he loved me.
Awww....

I also try to get myself excited about any projects I'm working on.
For instance, this week, I'll be issuing my 2nd class newsletter.
Also, I'm taking the student support centre "public" - regular opening hours will finally be starting.
Lastly, I run through the lessons I have to cover tomorrow in my mind.
No surprises.
Everything about teaching has to be intentional.

Most importantly, I make sure that when i start my day tomorrow, it's with a smile - whether I feel like it or not, a smile is a powerful thing.

Take it Seriously, But Teach Perseverence!

The first time (ever) a kid came crying to me over a tiny little cut on their arm, I was plain amused at the severity by which he treated the small injury.
Almost disregarded it.

I mentioned this to my mom one day and she happily retorted that I had been much worse when I was a kid.

"You came crying to me with a small cut on your arm and asked me if you were going to die."



Amusing, yes.
But I began to realize that despite how small we think kids' problems are, at that age, they have not yet gained the wisdom of experience and almost everything is a HUGE problem or predicament to them!

Just because we see their problems as small, and cannot understand why they would cry like there's no tomorrow just because they forgot to bring a pencil or the like, doesn't mean we should trivialize their problems.


I've found that the key is in balance.

You see, while it's important to take their little problems seriously, it's a whole other "problem" if we coddle them each time they cry or make a fuss.

Instead, we need to give their "little" problems the due attention and care, but teach them to move on - to learn from their experiences, and to become stronger for it!



Many kids nowadays (and I say this from the point of view of a school counsellor) have difficulties facing the problems in their lives.
They easily become victims of their own faulty thought processes.


We need to equip the children of today with tools and habits of hardiness, and teach them to be active thinkers and learners, developing a tenacious outlook on life.

"So Nice Smell!!"

That's what my kids would say when I first began using aromatherapy in the classroom.

I have about 7 scents - each for different purposes.
Lavender and Jasmine, I've noticed, generally helps to calm the class down (which is many cases is exactly what I need).


Today during meditation I tried something a little different.
I got my kids to focus on 3 main senses one by one - with their eyes closed (thus completely ignoring one sense to hone in on another), I asked them first to feel the cool air from the ac blowing on their skin.

How did that make you feel?
I saw some smiles.

Next, I got them to focus on using their sense of hearing - concentrating on the sound of their breath and on the music they could hear, but blocking all other sounds out.
I saw some very resolute expressions.


Finally, I brought the scent diffuser I have in my classroom around the class.
Telling them to now try to see if they could smell anything specific in the classroom, I moved the diffuser around the room slowly, passing near their noses.

(I could feel myself relaxing too!)



Smell can so often easily be overlooked.

In doing some research about essential oils, I've come to realize that this can be of great aid to the teacher.

There are specific smells that can help us achieve certain states of mind.
Lavender, for example, is a very commonly used scent because of the wide benefits.
It can help with anxiety, depression, guilt, helplessness, irritability, nervous tension, exhaustion...

Scents like lime, orange, grapefruit, or lemon can help lift your spirits, and citrus, mint and pine can help freshen you up!


So far I have more of the calming scents (because my kids are pretty hyper usually)... but I'll soon be getting some of the more citrus scents to play around with when they seem tired or need some perking up. :)

Class Newsletter

Yes, it's a lot of work, but the kids love it, and this way I can keep parents informed.
I've come to realize the importance of working with parents - keeping them in the loop, explaining things to them, and getting feedback from them.

Here are some thumbnails of this year's Jan edition.\:

Included in the monthly newsletters are sections on:

• Class Awards
• Featured Student Work
• The Learning Frontier - Learning about Learning
  
• Journal Snippets
• IT Section
• Announcements, Birthdays, and Calendar
• Lots of pictures!

I'm beginning on Feb's issue now.

Morning Music Meditation

The benefits of music have been long hailed.
And when joined with meditation, and visualization techniques... wow!


For the last few months, I spend 5 minutes or so every morning with my class doing meditation.
Each day is different.
Somedays I give more directions, using visualization techniques and a bit of yoga breathing, and other days it's just up to the students themselves.

This video has a bit of everything - mostly just letting them focus on the music and responding to the music (this is music therapy), and if you notice, there is heavy breathing sounds - which is a yoga breathing technique.

Visualization was only used a little in this particular session. Sometimes I use more visualization which has to do with colours and using actions as well.







Notice that I don't say anything in the beginning (when the students are walking in) - I use visual and auditory cues (dim lighting, music in background, PowerPoint slide) that tell the students what they should do. You'll notice that many of the kids just walk in, sit down, and immediately get into meditation "mode".

By the way, the "You Are A Tree" bit has really helped - many of my kids usually have issues with staying still (yep, hyperactive!), an when I first taught them to breathe in and out, they had trouble balancing and staying upright! So using the basics of the yoga tree-pose, I taught them to keep their eyes focused on one point and to ground themselves like a tree. Immediately, the students who usually could not keep still showed resolve and focus in their eyes. No more swaying around and off-balance postures.

Finally, I ended with smiling.
The benefit of just putting your facial expressions into a smile is that your body can't tell the difference between a real smile/laugh or a fake one... sometimes I get the class to just laugh for 30 seconds non-stop. This helps put the kids (and myself) in a good mood at the start of the day!


Results of meditation - my students have feed-backed to me that the daily meditations have helped them feel calmer, happier, more focused...

... but hey, don't just take it from me - try it with your students and see the difference yourself! ;)

Stop!

I get bored easily.
Pet peeve when I was a student - boring teachers.

So these days, I make sure that if I start leaning towards "boring", I stop whatever I was doing, and get myself interested.


I mean, seriously - if I get bored by my own teaching, what more my students?